I WAS OFF
By Rodrigo Bena, Mar 10 2018 12:23AM
It takes practice, time, courage and awareness - but I managed to be offline, 100% in the present.
My wife and I went to see the band MarchFourth on Saturday at the Crystal Ballroom, in Portland, to celebrate her birthday. In a conscious effort, we left our cell phones in the car and freed ourselves to watch the show only with our own eyes, without a camera lens.
As a former photojournalist, it was interesting to not to think about the event as a way to show people what they missed. But guess what? They missed - and it is ok. As we are living in a world where you can see almost every single thing that happened, is happening or will happen, we suffer from FOMO (Fear of missing out) more than ever.
The truth is that by checking everything online WE ARE MISSING the most important thing we have: OUR LIVES.
After working as a life coach and studying happiness for the last 13 years, I observed that the amount of time we spend online is often the opposite reflection of how happy we are in life.
I explain. The times in my life I wasn't feeling 100% was the time I used social media the most. The opposite is also true: the times in my life I am feeling good, connecting with friends and family, satisfied with my relationships and work, was when I least spent time online. When I realized it I started observing people around me and often it was true for them.
So as I am feeling great these days, and I am rarely posting personal things online, I decided to only to it intentionally. I am doing a media fasting, not consuming anything electronic 5 or 6 days a week, then only consuming inspiring and good news on the days or two remaining.
This post it is an example of it. I enjoyed spending time with my community this whole weekend, visiting friends, going to events, spending the night in a country hotel to celebrate my wife's birthday, soaking in a beautiful outdoor relaxing pool - all as offline as possible (only using the computer once to invite people to an event).
And do you know what? Being offline is great! It's like...LIVING LIFE!! Try it!
(btw, I didn't take this photo, I just got one online as many people have taken photos without fully enjoying the show)